The Habitual Single Girl

I feel like I have started an internal movement that I have dubbed Operation Stay Single. It seems like I purposely sabotage relationships, even if they a good ones, because they are missing unimportant elements. My type-a personality shines through more and more during these times, as a close friend and confidant seems to remind me.
If things are not done exactly to my schedule, then forget it, I am walking. Maybe my problem is not that I don't want the relationship, but that I really don't know what I want. I want control but I want someone to take control at the same time. I want things to be done according to me, but I don't want to have to explain what my expectations are. He just did it, I didn't have to tell him, and that is why I was okay with that relationship. I hate the "getting to know someone process." I hate having to meet the friends, meet the family, etc. It is just easier when I already know all of these people. The issue, there is no one that fits that description and I am not willing to change that view. It gives me anxiety to even think about thinking outside the box.
Also, I want someone that wants to spend time with me, but I want someone that has their own life as well. If this makes sense in anyone else's head but my own, it will be amazing: I want someone who wants to spend time with me, but doesn't tell me 24/7 how much time they want to spend with me. I want someone who knows just to go away sometimes.
I used to be the texting queen. I hate texting now. I don't want someone that uses text as a primary form of communication. I don't want someone that texts me constantly just because they are bored. I have too much going on in my life to stop every five seconds to check a text and reply.
I can have a ton of fun and be really into someone and turn it off life the flip of a switch. The trigger could be as little as the pronunciation of a word, the sound of a breath taken or as big as a lie.
I will be habitually single. I am the habitually single girl. And I know this. And I am coming to accept that. I am like this because I know what I want and I know I have expectations that are impossible to live up to. I know that I want it both ways and in real life, it is just not like that. I think I am like that because I don't want anyone to be able to live up to those expectations. I want to be habitually single, kiss frogs, and not have to worry about pissing someone off because I decide to go out with my friends and not invite some tag along, or I want to stay home by myself rather than have to pretend to enjoy watching a movie with someone. I don't want to have to feel like I need to impress someone. Since none of this fits the definition of a relationship, here's to my permanent spot on the singles list.